At 37, as I reflect on the past, the 2000s seem like a decently good decade for movies. Of course, there were arguably better and more original films in the '90s, '80s, and earlier, particularly the early parts of trilogies. But for today's discussion, I, as a millennial, will focus on the 2000s era.
Identifying as an original or "geriatric" millennial born in the 1980s, my generation has weathered many storms, from the tragedy of 9/11 to the tumultuous 2008 recession, and we've even been branded with the moniker of the 'coronavirus' generation due to timing. I graduated in June 2004, and by 2006, I found myself working at the Mount Kisco Theatre. It was the year "Rocky Balboa" was released, featuring a quote that resonates profoundly with me now as an adult:
"The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place, and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, go out and get what you’re worth. But you’ve got to be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!" - Rocky Balboa
To provide some context, my personal journey includes being on the autism spectrum and a deep-seated desire for validation, which, in retrospect, I consider a regret from my 20s to the present. It’s a quest that overshadowed the need for self-confidence. Social media’s role in affecting mental health, with its tendency to incite comparison and bragging, is a subject I plan to delve into another time.
So, what sparked my midlife crisis? I spent 15 years in retail, partly out of comfort due to my educational path and partly because my college degree seemed to pigeonhole me into one sector. The negative mental health implications of such a long tenure in retail were significant. Fortunately, I've managed to transition into a PSA job with a grasp on scheduling.
However, this is where the challenge persists. Being stuck in a state of career limbo is daunting. While certifications, additional degrees, and internships are beneficial, they don’t offer immediate solutions. In a recent podcast episode, I explored how to reform post-secondary education and the job market, especially for adults on the autism spectrum.
Another pressing issue is the struggle to build a sustainable career with a salary that supports life's significant milestones, like marriage and homeownership. The daunting prospect of entering a relationship or marriage while earning a retail-level wage raises concerns about meeting basic needs, let alone supporting a family. As I pivot toward entrepreneurship alongside a traditional job, the financial limitations delay major purchases and life events.
I often wonder, especially when considering the cautious approach of many women today regarding finances and relationships, if my current path is viable. As I continue to work and venture into entrepreneurship, I ponder on platforms like LinkedIn whether I’m on the right trajectory.
I hope my reflections resonate with you or provide some food for thought.
Sincerely,
Benjamin D. Vabner
